You can print out this worksheet and fill it out to help you prepare for your mediation. Once you have filled it out, you can take this worksheet to the mediation and use it to help you remember important information.
Don't give the worksheet to the other parties or the mediator! These notes are just for you.
You should also read
Preparing for mediation and
What happens at mediation?
Talk to your mediation service. Read any material you are given.
Use this space to write down any notes about what will happen at mediation
Use this space to write down what your dispute is about.
What issues do you want to talk about? For each issue, write down why it is important.
Why is it important
Now, try and imagine what the other parties involved will think are the issues and why they are important.
Other party's issue
Why they think it is important
Use this space to write down what you want to happen.
Use this space to write down what you think the other parties might want. Think about what they have told you and anything written in any letters they have sent you.
If your dispute involves legal issues, find out how the law affects your dispute. Use this space to write down notes about your legal position.
Write down all the issues you put in answer to questions 7 and 8 in the table below. Don't forget to include the other party's issues.
Next to each one list all the options you can think for resolving that issue. Try and think of options that might be good for everyone. Talk to someone you trust about the options. They might come up with some new options for how to resolve the problem.
One issue might be the way the other party shouts at you whenever you talk about the dispute. Options for resolving this could be:
Review your options. Read through your list of options and for each one, think about these things:
Now write out your list of options again, listing all those options that you would like to discuss at mediation and noting any comments about each option.
Think about how your feelings may affect you in the mediation. Plan some strategies for how you can deal with becoming upset or frustrated during the mediation.EXAMPLE
Spend some time thinking about how best to talk during the mediation. Speak calmly and positively.
Instead of saying: "You deliberately made me angry and frustrated".
You could say: "I have felt very angry and frustrated".
Do you need:
a person to speak for you
a support person (who does not speak for you)
Speak to your mediation service about whether you can arrange this.
Do you need an interpreter?
Speak to your mediation service about arranging this.
Prepare a list of the documents you are going to take with you. It is helpful to have the documents in date order, for example from earliest to most recent.