​ሕግንና ደንብን በተመለከተ እርዳታ ማግኘት ይፈልጋሉን? - Amharic | هل تحتاج لمساعدة قانونية؟ - Arabic | ܤܢܝܼܩܵܐ ܝ݇ܘ̤ܬ ܠܗܲܝܵܪܬܵܐ ܩܵܢܘܿܢܵܝܬܵܐ؟ - Assyrian | Need Legal Help? - Auslan | Treba li vam pravna pomoc? - Bosnian | Burmese â Need Legal Help? | 需要法律帮助吗? - Chinese Simplified | 需要法律幫助嗎? - Chinese Traditional | Trebate li pravnu pomoć? - Croatian | ضرورت به کمک قانونی دارید؟ - Dari | Wïc Kuɔɔny në Wɛ̈t Löŋ? - Dinka | آیا به کمک حقوقی نیاز دارید؟ - Farsi | Gadreva na Veivuke Vakalawa? - Fijian | Kailangan ninyo ba ng tulong na panglegal? - Filipino | Besoin d’aide juridique ? - French | Χρειάζεστε βοήθεια σε νομικά ζητήματα - Greek | क्या आपको कानूनी सलाह चाहिए? - Hindi | Butuhkan Bantuan dalam Masalah Hukum? - Indonesian | Hai bisogno di assistenza legale? - Italian | ត្រូវការជំនួយលើបញ្ហាផ្លូវច្បាប់ឬទេ? - Khmer | 법적인 도움이 필요하십니까? - Korean | Ви треба ли помош со правни работи? - Macedonian | कानूनी सहयोग चाहिएको छ? - Nepalese | Necessita de ajuda com questões jurídicas? - Portuguese | Вам нужна юридическая помощь? - Russian | E Manaomia Fesoasoani i Mea Tau Tulafono? - Samoan | а ли вам треба помоћ у правним питањима? - Serbian | Ma u baahan tahay Caawimmad xagga sharciga ah?- Somali | ¿Necesita ayuda con cuestiones jurídicas? - Spanish | சட்ட உதவி தேவையா? - Tamil | ท่านต้องการความช่วยเหลือทางด้านกฎหมายไหม? - Thai | Fiema’u ha tokoni Fakalao? - Tongan | Yasal Danışmaya İhtiyacınız mı var? - Turkish | Cần Được Giúp Đỡ Về Luật Pháp? - Vietnamese |

Preparing for mediation - Worksheet ​

You can print out this worksheet a​​nd fill it out to help you prepare for your mediation. ​Once you have filled it out, you can take this worksheet to the mediation and use it to help you remember important information. 

Alert Icon  Don't give the worksheet to the other parties or the mediator! These notes are just for you.

You should also read Preparing for mediation and What happens at mediation?

1. Learn about the mediation process

Talk to your mediation service. Read any material you are given.

Use this space to write down any notes about what will happen at mediation




















2. What is your dispute about? 

Use this space to write down what your dispute is about.




















3. Think about the issues

What issues do you want to talk about? For each issue, write down why it is important.

Issue

 

Why is it important

 





















Now, try and imagine what the other parties involved will think are the issues and why they are important.

Other party's issue

 

Why they think it is important

 





















4. What do you want?

Use this space to write down what you want to happen.




















Use this space to write down what you think the other parties might want. Think about what they have told you and anything written in any letters they have sent you.




















5. Understand your legal rights

If your dispute involves legal issues, find out how the law affects your dispute. Use this space to write down notes about your legal position.




















6. Think about the options for ending the dispute

Write down all the issues you put in answer to questions 7 and 8 in the table below. Don't forget to include the other party's issues.

Next to each one list all the options you can think for resolving that issue. Try and think of options that might be good for everyone. Talk to someone you trust about the options. They might come up with some new options for how to resolve the problem.

EXAMPLE
One issue might be the way the other party shouts at you whenever you talk about the dispute. Options for resolving this could be:

  • the parties agree not to shout when they talk to each other,
  • the parties agree only to communicate by email, or
  • the parties agree not to have any contact between them at all.

Issue

 

Options

 




































Review your options. Read through your list of options and for each one, think about these things:

  • Is this option possible? Can it be done?
    EXAMPLE:in a dispute between neighbours, it would not be realistic to ask for your neighbour to move out of their house.

  • Is it possible the other party will agree to this? Does the other party want this too?
    EXAMPLE:you may want to be able to talk to the other party without there being shouting. The other party may want this too.

  • Would it be possible to get what you want if you had to go to court?
    EXAMPLE:you may want the other party to apologise. You may only be able to get this from mediation.

Now write out your list of options again, listing all those options that you would like to discuss at mediation and noting any comments about each option.

Issue

 

Options

 

Comments

 


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 































7. Your emotions

Think about how your feelings may affect you in the mediation. Plan some strategies for how you can deal with becoming upset or frustrated during the mediation.

EXAMPLE

  • Ask the mediator for a break
  • Explain to the other side and the mediator what you are feeling
  • Ask to have a support person at the mediation.

Strategies

 




















8. Plan how to communicate

Spend some time thinking about how best to talk during the mediation. Speak calmly and positively.

EXAMPLE
Instead of saying: "You deliberately made me angry and frustrated".
You could say: "I have felt very angry and frustrated".

Strategies

 




















9. Do you need to take someone with you?

Do you need:

Checkbox a person to speak for you

Checkboxa support person (who does not speak for you)

Checkboxa lawyer.

Speak to your mediation service about whether you can arrange this.

10. Interpreters

CheckboxDo you need an interpreter? ​

Speak to your mediation service about arranging this.

11. Documents and information

Prepare a list of the documents you are going to take with you. It is helpful to have the documents in date order, for example from earliest to most recent.